Life is pretty crazy. We are even crazier. Sometimes we trust others’ judgments more than our own. We listen to them. We seek their approval in all that we do. But are they the ones who face the consequences of our choices? No, they aren’t. They why should we listen to them all the time? Can’t we follow our instincts? Yes, we can and we should. It is our life, after all.
Happiness comes from doing things that we enjoy doing. There are certain things that you must do, no matter what others say or think.
Learn to move on
When your spouse or colleague argues with you over something, be generous and move on. Let them win the argument. Yes, others might think that you should have defended your stand, but that isn’t worth your time. In the long run, they will definitely realize their mistakes.
Don’t hold grudges
They weigh a ton. The moment you forgive a person who has wronged you, you are taking a big weight off your shoulders. When you forgive, you are not letting things remain the same. You are just leaving those things behind and moving on in the positive direction.
You aren’t going to achieve anything by looking at life with that glass is half empty attitude. Try to find positivity everywhere. Find ways to stop over thinking. Positive people attract positive things into their life. So, discard those negative thoughts. Remember every cloud has a silver lining.
Stay true to yourself
It does not matter what others say or think about you, you should always remain true to yourself. Don’t compromise your values. The Zen mind never wavers from the right path.
Surround yourself with positive people
Eliminate negative people from your life. Yes, it may be hard, but it is necessary. Negative people bring negativity into your life. They kill your joy. Stay away from them.
Learn from your own mistakes
All of us make mistakes. Learn from them. Some people may laugh at you when you make mistakes. Don’t listen to them. Nobody is perfect. Accept your mistakes gracefully. Also, try not to make the same mistakes again and again.
Embrace change and creativity
Change is the only constant in life. Everything changes, but it is not a bad thing. Embrace change. You can’t grow if you choose to remain the same. Someone wisely said that you won’t be able to solve a problem with the same mindset that created it. Use your creativity to think differently. Isn’t this what Zen masters advise?
You can’t be a millionaire overnight. You can’t lose 20 kilos in a day. If you want to achieve your goals, you have to remain dedicated to them. You have to toil patiently. Don’t expect quick results.
Enjoy what you have
In our eagerness to achieve more, we often forget to appreciate the little things in our life. Be grateful for what you have. You may have already achieved enough to be happy about. Take a moment and celebrate your successes. Don’t listen to people who tell you that you have not achieved anything worthwhile.
Follow your instincts
Sometimes all that you need to do is to listen to your heart. Especially in relationships, your intuition is more reliable than that voice of reason in your head. There are several easy ways to stop overthinking. Listen to your heart. It knows better. Keep in mind that you’re the one who has to face the consequences of your choices. So, make your decisions on your own.
Find time for fun and pleasure
Yes, you may be super-busy but you should find at least a few minutes for pleasure. Do things that you enjoy. Read a book or watch your favorite program on TV. Find time for it.
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