For most folks, dealing with change isn’t easy. It is the human nature to find comfort in routines. The sense of security associated with schedules is a major incentive not to try new things. However, there are no guarantees that life will proceed according to your plans. What if there are a series of unpleasant surprises? Are you prepared to work around the new challenges and still emerge as a winner? If this question daunts you or confuses you, read ahead.
Why dealing with change is so critical?
I believe that changing progressively is central to taking control of your life. I have two reasons to support my theory—if you have the tools for dealing with change:
- You will continue to evolve as an individual
- You will achieve more, despite unexpected contingencies
Taking Control of Life When Things Go Wrong
All of us try to plan our lives. Whenever things go as expected, we praise the accuracy of our planning. I have been guilty of being a perfectionist too, trying to outdo everyone and planning every thing to the maximum possible extent. For some years, this habit was very useful. A great sense of accomplishment dawned upon me as my plans worked every time. However, this didn’t prepare me for what lay ahead.
My habit didn’t prepare me for the health issues my parents developed as they aged. My personal and professional life went for a toss when I couldn’t rely on my daily schedule. I didn’t have a plan A or plan B to tackle the situation. The results were quite disastrous. My psychological health started suffering. The extreme anxiety with not knowing what was about to happen overwhelmed me. I lost self-confidence and my faith deserted me. Planning life had proven to be a huge mistake!
Our circumstances don’t remain the same. Different challenges require a different kind of approach. None of us can boast of possessing every skill required for solving life’s problems. Assuming that we can control our life by making extremely detailed plans is just prepping for a forthcoming shock.
Planning Isn’t Bad but Overdoing It Is
Being a planner isn’t bad. It makes us systematic. Being a habitual planner, I have always been able to manage my daily chores with great ease. However, there is a small difference between being organized and getting complacent with your managing capabilities.
A day’s or week’s tasks can be managed rather well. There is little room for surprises. However, taking the same approach to plan in years ahead of myself wasn’t wise. Basically, I had assumed that many things in life would remain unchanged. Here, I assumed the good health of my parents and my relatively laidback domestic life. Establishing small, weekly goals or long-term, life goals isn’t wrong. However, you shouldn’t plan to the extent that the smallest of changes upset you.
Taking Control of Life When Familiarity Means Failure to Evolve
To make your life more fulfilling, you need to maintain a certain degree of zeal. This enthusiasm comes from working outside the comfort zone. People often become grouchy and frustrated, citing lack of time as the reason they cannot pursue their passion. Their desires remain unfulfilled, making them chronically bad-tempered and bitter. However, this isn’t about time management. This is just a thought that people use to shield themselves from the truth—they are too afraid to change their daily schedule.
The familiarity of a typical environment pushes us into a comfort zone. Here, we are not receptive to new ideas. We seek solace in sticking to ideas that have worked in the past. Anything indicating the slightest of risks seems like inviting trouble. Embracing changes doesn’t mean drastic overhauling your schedule or dumping long-term plans.
It just means readjusting your daily life to do more things that you love. The idea is to extract the maximum satisfaction out of your daily life. People languishing in their comfort zones lack the courage to explore beyond the usual. This means not learning/pursuing new skills, places, or hobbies. There are no new goals that stimulate positive feelings like sense of achievement.